Thanks Richard.

In my experience, breaking that limiting ‘mould’ starts when someone believes you can.

Karin H.

Kent you are so right about putting in place ’something’ to prevent the problem re-occurring again. That’s a must do for anyone.

And thanks especially to Karin for reminding me of those words I wrote earlier this year. As you will appreciate, from my various articles over time, I find it a great privilege to be able to facilitate in resolving situations and to assist those who want help, whether in business or otherwise.

I believe that we learn most by listening - not just hearing the words spoken, but really listening to the underlying message - and we begin to realise that in life, and in business too, very little is ever black and white, but that there are numerous shades of grey in between.

Deviating from the subject totally, and perhaps this should be the subject of an article in it’s own right, I believe that each of us is the product of the environment in which we were raised. By that, I mean that our belief systems are moulded absolutely by the experiences and social responsibilities ‘forced’ on us from day one by our parents, our friends, and the community in which we were brought up.

And too often these include ‘limiting’ beliefs that we all need help to break if we are to move forward in life and business.

“I would add that I believe that with maturity one gains knowledge and experience, from which comes wisdom and confidence, and from that we feel able to deliver, in differing degrees, a very precious human characteristic - that of being able to help each other.
And, as you’ve noticed, I’m sure that, as we mature, we move from being impulsive and judgemental in our formative youth to being quieter, listening and observing, being more thoughtful, and consequently less judgemental - and in being less judgemental we no longer threaten the comfort zones of those with whom we communicate. Put this all together and we find that the more mature we are, the more can share and help those individuals that need our support (in whatever format that may be).

That’s the philosophical in me !!”

As I replied then (and still agree with today and tomorrow): Not just philosophical, you ‘teach’/'lead’ by example.

Karin H.

It’s like I always say to my partner Ton: you have to ‘pick’ your battles. (Ton being a hot-head when he was younger, when he grew-up and still is - but mellowing on the edges - about time too! ;-)).

You have to know - through experience - which aggravations you can turn into a solutions and which aggravations you better off ignoring or discarding. Which ones depend of course per person, per situation. Life does get easier, more relaxed that way.

Karin H. (Keep It Simple Sweetheart, specailly in business)

I like to think about solutions in two steps: First, what can I do now to change things for the better. And then, what can I do so that this problem never happens again. The two steps combined ensure my opportunities for anger and frustration will be fewer in the future.

Kent